1. Don’t Commit To Someone Who Is Not Serious About You
Before even beginning figuring out how to get a man to commit, you first have to filter out the ones that are not really interested in being in a relationship with you.
Sometimes you might find yourself having a crush on someone who does not reciprocate. When that is the case, it’s important to realize it as early as possible to avoid or minimize pain and heartbreak. That’s why it’s essential that you learn to notice when a person is stringing you along.
Actions speak louder than words. When you start dating someone who just happens to not be really that into you, chances of them admitting it straight to your face are slim to none.
A guy will rarely say to a girl “look, I’m not sure you’re quite good enough for me, so let’s keep this going and I’ll just keep looking… ok?”
That’s a really hurtful thing to say to a person.
However, it is really easy and quite common to communicate the same thing with actions.
Some things to look out for include:
- Taking forever to reply to your texts
- Never or rarely making an effort to arrange a date
- Coming late or canceling last minute
- Ghosting you for a couple of days or weeks and then reaching out again
- Being vague/non-communicative
- Lying or making up excuses
2. Don’t Try To Force A Guy To Commit To You
In order to get a guy to commit to you, you can’t try to force him into it. Commitment is a choice that he has to make for himself.
Us girls have a lot of covert ways of getting what we want out of our partners. We cry, withhold affection, dramatize. There are countless tactics women use to get men to behave a certain way.
Everybody gets a bit controlling every now and then. I’ve thrown tantrums for many trivial reasons.
But trying to make your partner do things your way is not a good habit for your relationship. Period. However, when it comes to commitment, it can really only do more harm than good.
3. Understand That Men Crave Commitment Too
It is a popular belief that only women crave the stability and safety of a committed relationship, whereas men just want to conquer and “spread their seed”.
Seeing the world through this lens forces both women and men to perceive the other as their enemy, due to this inherent conflict of interest.
Perceiving your partner as an enemy will inevitably hurt your relationship. Unfortunately, this divide between the sexes is so heavily reinforced in our society, it is really hard to escape it.
4. Become Irreplaceable By Getting To Know Your Man And Building Trust
The best way to make sure that your man will never leave you is by providing value that simply cannot be replaced.
There are always going to be some other girls out there that are prettier, more fit or smarter than you. So it’s rather pointless to try to compete in these domains.
However, when it comes to knowing your man and gaining his trust, you have the advantage over all other women.
